The Top 6 Lessons I Learned At 25
Author: Bianca Venchiarutti
*cuts my bangs*
new birthday, new me!
Another Year Around The Sun…
Another year around the sun, another set of lessons learned. This past year was filled with reflection, growth, and new realizations about love, milestones, money, and self-worth. As I step into my next chapter, I want to share the six biggest lessons I learned at 25—lessons that shaped how I see the world and myself.
Biggest Lessons I Learned At 25
1: Love is energy, love is a choice
2: You might never feel 100% ready for new opportunities
3: Be silly, Life is too serious
4: Sticking to your values as an empath
5: Spending money, is investing in yourself.
6: Your body is your home
#1: Love is a choice
I used to believe love was something given to me by another person, but I’ve come to understand that love is an energy—something we can access at any time. It requires bravery, vulnerability, and an active choice to step into love daily. The love you once shared with someone doesn’t disappear just because they’re no longer in your life; you brought that energy just as much as they did. Love is always within you.
Podcast recommendation: Why Emotional Safety Is *So Much* Hotter Than Butterflies
my bf + me <3
#2: You might never feel 100% ready
Whether it’s a new job, a big move, or an unexpected life change, no one ever feels fully prepared. The opportunities in front of you wouldn’t exist if you weren’t ready for them. Growth happens when you take the leap, even if fear is standing in the way.
Podcast recommendation: How to Officially Enter Your Delulu Era & Achieve Your Goals in 2025
not me, but hopefully within the next couple months!
#3: Be silly, life is too serious
Lately, it feels like the world is heavier than ever. Political events, economic changes, and responsibilities can make adulthood feel overwhelming. But playfulness is just as essential as ambition. Prioritize joy. Laugh with your friends. Play board games. Have a dance party in your living room. Life is meant to be enjoyed.
Podcast recommendation: twentysomething chats | the feminine economy, cycle syncing, and learning genuine play with Hannah Stomski
also not me, she’s just silly and I love it.
#4: Empaths & values
As an empath, I’ve spent a lot of time seeing all sides of a story, which made me question my own values. This past year, I learned that understanding someone’s perspective doesn’t mean you have to adopt it. If I wouldn’t want my future kids to believe in something, I let it go. Holding onto my own beliefs while still holding space for others is a balance I continue to navigate.
Podcast recommendation: julia guz on the divine feminine, overcoming fears and finding true liberation
#5: Spending money is investing in yourself
I used to feel anxious about spending money, even when I could afford it. But I’ve started shifting my mindset—money isn’t just something to save, it’s something to use intentionally. Investing in my health, experiences, and happiness is just as important as building financial security. We have time to make more money; let’s not let fear stop us from living now.
Podcast recommendation: bridgette vong on personal finance, breakups, and living alone in your 20s
birthday dinner at public gardens!
#6: Your body is your home
We live in a world that constantly tells us we need to “fix” ourselves—buy more skincare, try the latest wellness trend, change our bodies. But the best moments in life aren’t about how we look. They’re about connection, nature, and joy. The real glow-up isn’t a new routine; it’s living fully. Your body is your home—don’t waste your life always maintaining it.
Podcast recommendation:Self Worth vs. Self Esteem + 4 Tips to Mastering Self Love
As I step into another year, I carry these lessons with me, knowing that growth is a lifelong journey. If any of these lessons resonated with you, take a moment to reflect. Which one do you need to embrace the most right now? Let’s make this year one of courage, joy, and self-trust.
Author: Bianca Venchiarutti
Bianca Venchiarutti, is a health coach-in-training, founder of "The Twenties Detox," and host of its accompanying podcast. Navigating the complexities of early adulthood, Bianca is on a mission to transform this pivotal decade through a process of continuous learning and unlearning. She blends her academic background in science with a passion for personal growth to guide individuals through the challenges of their twenties. Through her platform, Bianca offers a mix of interviews, personal stories, and practical tips aimed at fostering a healthier, happier mindset. Her commitment to wellness is further demonstrated by her current studies in health coaching at McMaster University.
