Stop waiting for the right moment.
Is the belief of 'having all the time in the world' hindering our growth?
I always envied the people who loved change. How they could find it exciting was beyond me. Me? I was always the type of person to hyper-fixate on my to-do lists, and schedules because anything uncertain brought me severe anxiety.
It wasn’t until later in my life – when I went through a really hard time of losing a friend, that something shifted inside of me. It was unexpected, and at the time it completely wrecked me.
Rather than distract myself from the grief by keeping busy (like I usually did), a little voice inside of me told me “Bianca, you have to let yourself feel this time.”
So I did. For the first time in a long time, I let myself cry, become vulnerable, and process this time in my life. One thing I didn’t expect, was to have such a drastic change in my beliefs and lifestyle. I could have let this tragedy cripple me and fear life, but it actually had the opposite effect. I no longer feared life. I no longer feared what could be. I finally let go of my control and surrendered to the uncertainty of life.
I know that sounds strange, but I somehow found relief knowing today could be my last day. One of the biggest changes I made was simply saying “yes” more. I became more spontaneous, and because of that – I met some wonderful people in my life who have become some of my closest friends.
I also respected myself more. If you ask yourself everyday “How would I spend today if it was my last?”… I doubt it would involve surrounding yourself with people who don’t really respect you or by doing something purely for the approval of others.
I got to thinking – could our belief of ‘having all the time in world’ be actually hindering our self-growth?
The mindset of ‘what if this is my last day’ tends to dissolve any fears or attachments that hold us back and allow you to drop into the present.
What can you work on now?
What have you been putting off?
What do you need to let go of?
Stop waiting for the right moment. Your moment is now.
Your action for the week.
Photo by Airam Vargas
Every morning I want you to affirm this message: “if today was my last day, what decisions would I make?”
Maybe you’ll realize how much you love your friendships, partner, or other loved ones. Conversely, you may find out that the job you’re doing was just to please your parents and you really want to take up some painting lessons.
Whatever comes up – is your soul communicating with you. Listen to it!
