10 Tips for Having a Stress-Free Valentines Day
Valentine's Day has always been somewhat of a mixed experience for me. Despite being in a relationship for three years, I've never felt compelled to make it a huge deal.
If you also feel like you’re getting stressed out with the societal pressure of making this holiday a super exciting thing…here’s 10 tips on how to have a stress-free valentines day.
To be fair, my boyfriend and I both live with our parents so that adds a layer of difficulty in finding alone time. But to compensate, we typically spend the weekend BEFORE valentines day doing something fun.
For the last 3 years we spend the weekend wandering around downtown Toronto, visiting art galleries, and then returning home to make homemade pizza, uncork a bottle of red wine, and indulge in chocolates.
Little bit about me: chocolate is my ride- or-die, no matter the occasion.
Maybe it's the minimalist in me, or perhaps it's just that I'm not fluent in the language of extravagant gift-giving — but as long as we're together and enjoying each other's company, I'm good.
I see a lot of people online GOING OFF for this holiday. Splurging on expensive gifts or jetting off on wild adventures...Tbh I get how that’s pretty cool but it's just not really my thing.
Ask yourself – Am I truly doing this for myself, or am I trying to impress others?
I think it's crucial to stay true to what feels right for you. Simple living has always resonated with me, but even then... I can get swept up in the allure of flashy living from time to time.
Don’t get me wrong, I have some friends who absolutely LOVE gifts. Not just receiving them, but they love the planning, or creating aspect for their loved ones. Without a doubt – receiving gifts (& gift-giving) is their primary love language.
That being said, social media has a way of making everything look glamorous.
How to Have a Stress- Free Valentines Day
01. Plan Ahead
Whether you're going out for dinner or spending the evening at home, plan your activities and reservations in advance to avoid last-minute stress.
02. Set Realistic Expectations
Remember that Valentine's Day doesn't have to be extravagant. Focus on spending quality time with your loved one rather than on grand gestures.
03. Communicate with Your Partner
Talk to your partner about your expectations for the day and listen to theirs. Make plans together to ensure that you're both on the same page.
04. Avoid Comparison
Don't compare your Valentine's Day celebrations to those of others. Every relationship is unique, and what matters most is the love and connection you share with your partner.
05. Practice Self-Care
Take care of yourself leading up to Valentine's Day. Make time for activities that help you relax and unwind, whether it's reading a book, going for a walk, or practicing mindfulness.
06. Keep it Simple
Sometimes the most meaningful gestures are the simplest ones. Consider cooking a meal together, watching a favourite movie, or taking a romantic stroll.
07. Laugh & Have Fun!
Don't take things too seriously. Embrace the joy and humor in the day, and don't be afraid to laugh at any mishaps or unexpected moments.
08. Focus on Appreciation
Use Valentine's Day as an opportunity to express gratitude and appreciation for your partner. Reflect on the qualities you love about them and share your feelings openly.
09. Be Flexible
Things may not always go as planned, and that's okay. Stay flexible and open-minded if changes arise, and remember that the most important thing is spending time with your loved one.
10. Celebrate Love in Your Own Way
Ultimately, Valentine's Day is about celebrating love in a way that feels authentic to you and your partner. Focus on creating meaningful memories together, regardless of traditional expectations or norms.
I hope that eases the pressure you’ve felt to have an extravagant valentines day. This day is to celebrate LOVE – both in self-love, and for your partner.
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Photo Bianca Venchiarutti, the writer of The Twenties Detox
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